When things go wrong, don’t go with them. -Elvis Presley
Most massage therapists, like other serious professionals, are in constant pursuit of perfection. We want the room temperature just right, the music soft and soothing. We listen intently to our clients’ needs, both spoken and unspoken. We aim to deliver our massage techniques with precision, compassion and nurturing touch and work hard to ensure that nothing distracts the client from their desired experience.
I’d like to think that we usually come close, but let’s be real here. More often than not, things go wrong. And more often than not, these things are beyond our control. For instance:
- Wet weather makes the music go all buzzy and distorted.
- The chilly front desk associate turns up the thermostat, and sweat threatens to drip off of me mid-session.
- My compassionate client tries to help me drape her leg but instead manages to whack me in the gut with it. Oof!
- A bit of skin on my fingertip decides to break free and form a hangnail that scratches the client.
- I spontaneously develop the sniffles (gah, she’s wearing too much perfume!) and complete the massage dripping with sweat and frowning at my new hangnail with sniffy, contorted bunny face.
With luck, these kinds of little mishaps are spread out rather than condensed into one miserable experience.
We’re not always so lucky.
Here’s a mild example. Last week, a coworker and I performed a couple’s massage. Our spa just had a wall knocked down the other week, and voila! A couple’s room. We’ve quickly learned that while couples’ sessions are a lovely bonding experience for the clients, they can be a bit hairier for the therapists to manage.
Timing, as you can guess, is the biggest challenge. Maybe one of the clients undresses quickly, but then the other one…not so much. Maybe one of the clients is accustomed to getting massages, while the other one…same deal.
So with this particular couple, after intakes and letting them get undressed, we knocked right on time. Only, my partner’s client wasn’t ready. She barreled out of the room to use the bathroom, even though we’d asked them beforehand if they’d needed to use it.
Take II. This time, they said they were ready…only this time, my client wasn’t. He was sitting on the table. (Thank goodness he had shorts on, at least, or this could have been an awkward moment for all.) I asked him to start face-down under the sheet and gave him a minute more.
Now over 10 minutes late, my partner and I were finally able to start. I did my usual compressions over the sheet and blanket. Hmm. He had an awfully lumpy back. Closer examination revealed not just lumpy but “crumpled.” Crumpled? Poop. He’d gotten under both sheets, which meant his bare skin was on the table. This particular table didn’t have a table warmer on it (again, it was a new couple’s room, so the spa wasn’t equipped yet), so at least he wasn’t lying directly on top of a table warmer (potential ouch). But it must not have felt very warm and cozy for him to be lying shirtless on cool vinyl on a cold winter’s evening.
I decided that we were already too late to interrupt the adjoining session, exit the room yet again and have him wrestle with the sheets. So, I took a deep breath and just went with it. After all, it wasn’t awful…it just wasn’t quite right. My partner glanced at me, a quizzical look on her face as I pulled back his blanket and both sheets to undrape his back. I gestured toward the bare table and shrugged. She shrugged back. It was bad enough that the session was running late and rather unconventional, but on top of that, I had a witness to my confusion.
As I warmed up his back, I accidentally pumped too much oil onto my hand, which is a common occurrence. Massage schools teach that when this happens, no problem! You can simply blot the excess oil onto the sheet without disturbing the client. Standing at the head of the naked table I didn’t have that option, so I nonchalantly worked my way toward his hips, where both sheets were. (We’re all about smooth transitions in this biz.) In the process, of course, I deposited too much oil all down his back. So to work my way back up, I did another technique that absorbs oil, the forearm glide. Ok, I was getting the hang of this, right? Nope. See, sometimes I place my free hand on the table to steady myself during forearm work. However, with that small amount of oil between my hand and the vinyl table, I slipped and nearly bonked my head on the client’s back.
The bottom sheet serves several functions, and not having it in its usual spot forced me to rethink a few protocols throughout the session to avoid sliding around. Draping his legs was also a bit awkward; again, thank goodness he had shorts on.
Things did get better, except my partner must have (fairly) deducted a couple of minutes from her session due to the clients’ delays. Massaging their scalps to wrap things up, we mouthed a silent negotiation with each other. I finally caved and finished when she wanted to, a couple of minutes shy of the 50 I’d verbally promised my client when we began the session. If there’s one thing I hate, it’s broken promises. I exited the room feeling guilty.
This was hardly an ideal massage session. But to my relief, my client was thrilled with the massage. He must not have noticed any of the shenanigans. It reminded me that even when things aren’t perfect, I can still give them my best, regardless of the circumstances. Maybe they feel my intentions shine through the anxiety and quirks. It just takes a little mind-bending on my part to get there.
In quiet moments I compare massage to live theatre. You’re onstage, so to speak, with this other person (the client) and expected to perform but, unlike theatre, the client is somehow the audience, the script and another actor. (The role of director may change hands depending on the client.) Still, you only get one shot to deliver what’s promised, and I’m learning that like theatre, the best (or at least the most memorable) sessions are the ones that go awry. Those are the ones that get me thinking quickly and get the adrenaline pumping. They force me to be more creative and resourceful. All put together, I get pushed into a more authentic, compassionate place as I problem-solve on the client’s behalf.
Who knows? Maybe the universe’s function of trickier sessions is to make me a better massage therapist. Not that I’ll look forward to the next difficult situation, per se, but if self-improvement is the payoff, I’ll be up for the challenge.